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(Part 1)
Challenging and difficult, though they may not be what
we want to hear, are the words that best describe long
distance relationships. Keep in mind however, that the
words are challenging and difficult, not impossible.
Many people choose to give a long distance relationship
a try, with the constant curiosity if it was the right
decision to make and if it even stands a chance. The
truth is, a long distance relationship has just as much
a chance of succeeding as any other relationship!
Long Distance Relationships share the same facts as
an average relationship. It involves two people who
share an interest in each other’s lives, care for
one another and of course have a love for each other
that they hope will only continue to grow. On the other
hand, a long distance relationship does have its differences
as well. It takes away your ability to see each other
on a frequent note, as well as the choice of being intimate
whenever you desire, not to mention that there would
be major trust required. Being unable to spend time
together in a physical presence makes it harder to hang
on to, but does not spell out doom for your relationship.
The first step is to make an agreement of what your
expectations are in the relationship and how much of
a commitment you are willing to give and receive. If
the two of you decide to be monogamous, then it is clear
that neither of you will be dating anyone else as long
as your romantic relationship exists. Being clear about
what you both want is extremely important, especially
in a long distance relationship, in order to prevent
future misunderstandings and mistakes. Do not feel afraid
to tell your partner what you really need and want from
him or her, you deserve the chance to speak from your
heart and he or she deserves to know the truth and judge
whether they can give it to you.
Trust is a major necessity if you wish to have your
relationship from a distance. Without trust and honesty,
the relationship is in for danger and unsuccessfulness,
just as it would be any other relationship. By accepting
the challenge of a long distance relationship, you also
accepted the fact that you will have to have the trust
and faith that your partner will not be seeing anyone
else as promised. Being paranoid and accusing will only
grow doubts, insecurity and tension between you and
none of those three will help the relationship survive
successfully.
(Part 2)
Keeping each other informed of the friendships you have
with other people and the events that take place in
your personal life is a great way to keep your relationship
alive and healthy; and continues to make your partner
a part of your life. It is essential that you receive
the same information from your partner as well, so you
both feel the same security and satisfaction that you
both crave. Be creative with the way you keep in touch,
such as calling, e-mailing, faxing and sending cards.
Pay attention to how many times a week you are staying
in touch as well. If you want your bond to stay strong
and loving, you have to hear from one another often,
leaving as little room for any of you to start getting
paranoid about anything.
Although you cannot be romantic towards each other
on a physical note, you can still perform romantic acts
that will keep the romance department happy. You can
do this by sending love letters and poems, having flowers
and gifts delivered, or even sending a video of yourself
with a loving message. Reminding your partner of how
much you think about and love him or her will score
high points, making them miss you more with the constant
urge to see you.
Planning reunions play a big part in keeping your relationship
exciting, plus serve you the satisfaction of being able
to see and touch each other occasionally. It gives you
the opportunity to catch up on each other’s life
in person and to be able to share physical and intimate
activities together, which will fulfill both of your
needs and desires. Not re-uniting every once in a while
will only damage the relationship you have, so if one
of you are not willing to visit the other occasionally,
then you may need to question the interest and care
your partner has for you and should probably end the
relationship and move on. If you and your partner truly
want this to work out, then you will both continue to
be eager to see each other as often as you can and every
time to have the chance to.
Setting a limit of how long you will be apart is a
wise thing to do if you do not want to end up waiting
forever. There will be a day when you and your partner
will have to start planning a serious future, which
can only happen when you are living in the same area
or perhaps even living together, whichever makes you
most comfortable. If none of you are willing to agree
on a place to settle and start having a relationship
where you see each other on a regular basis, then you
can pretty much forget about accomplishing anything
out of your long distance relationship. If your partner
truly loves you and wants to be with you, then they
would not want to wait forever to be with you.
With the right amount of effort and interest on both
parts, a long distance relationship can survive the
obstacles it will frequently be challenged with. As
long as you both refresh your memories of why you chose
to do this in the first place, trust each other, inform
one another of your personal lives, keep in touch, and
visit, your relationship can turn out to be one of the
most successful and happy relationships that ever existed.
You both will be secure, happy and satisfied until the
day comes when you will re-unite for good and build
your wonderful future together.
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