Bathe
The worst thing you could do when going out on a date
(especially if it is your first date with her) is to turn
up unshaven and looking untidy. Women are generally the
cleaner of the species and will judge you on how hygenic
you are, after all you would be appalled if she turned
up for the date looking scruffy and hadn't bathed for
a while (no offence). It doesn't cost anything to take
a bath and make an effort. Also remember that bad breath
and body odour are also an instant turn off and she will
assume that this is how you are all the time, even if
you are just having a bad day (hey girls have bad hair
days all the time!) she won't see beyond your appearance.
Arrive on time
The worst thing you can do is turn up late. Turning
up late will send out all the wrong impressions. Women
always assume the worst and one of the worst is turning
up late, not only will she think that she has been stood
up, but will also think that you are unreliable. If
you are picking her up from her home then it is advisable
to turn up 5 minutes before you are due, any earlier
she will be adjusting her make up or still getting ready
and won't want you to see her half finished.
Be a Gentleman
Hold the door open for her, let her walk through the
doors first, pull out her chair, be polite to her and
people around you. Women like to feel special and by
treating her like a lady she will think you are fantastic.
Compliment Her
The first thing to say to her is "You look beautiful"
before you even ask how she is. Keep up the compliments
throughout your date, but don't go overboard. A woman
loves to be complimented, feel sexy, gorgeous/beautiful
and know that you are attracted to her.
Listen to her and ask questions
Nobody wants to spend the whole night listening to someone
talk about themselves, or not listening to what the
other person is saying. But you do have to get to know
each other. Ask her questions, but more importantly
listen to what she has to say.
I remember once, while I was sitting in a resturant
waiting for some friends, there was a man and women
sitting at the table next to mine and I couldn't help
overhearing their conversation (him talking of himself).
I could tell it was their first date from what he was
telling her about himself. "I play sunday league
football, I like boxing". He went on like this
for about 10 minutes without stopping, or asking her
any questions about herself. That day left an impact
on me, and everytime I went on a date, I have been consious
of the woman and took an interest in what she had to
say. This is probably the best bit of advice I could
give.
Prepare
The last thing you want is to be sitting having a meal,
and the conversation dries up. Think about your date
and what you would like to know about her and in return
what you would like her to know about you. Try and think
of any questions that she might ask you so that you
can prepare the answer. You may think that it is easy
to talk and that you will not run out of questions to
ask, or that you will automatically have the answers,
but until you are there, and in the situation, you will
have no idea what to expect. You can avoid all of this
by meeting for a quick drink then go on to see a film,
so at least you will have something to talk about.
Who will pay?
This is a really tough question considering women are
now more independant and like to pay their way. I suggest
that you offer to pay and if she lets you then pay.
If she wants to pay, you can suggest that you want to
at least pay for half the bill.
The goodnight kiss
Some women prefer not to kiss after a date, others are
disappointed if the guy doesn't even try. There is no
easy answer to this. The only answer I can come up with
is wait until either she makes the first move or that
you both know when you are ready. Watch for body language
and little touches, but I would not advice sex on the
first date unless she wants to.
I'll call you
Only tell her that you will call her, if you mean it
and intend on seeing her again. This is an awkward situation
and most of the time the easiest solution is to take
her number and tell her you will call her, but don't
if you are not interested. When saying goodbye just
say "It was nice meeting you" and wish her
luck or you could just say "Goodnight", smile
and walk away. But if you do like her and are interested,
then you have to let her know.
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