| First dates are very nerve racking and often leave us
shy, silent and blowing our chances of getting a second
one because we weren't prepared for this one. Here are
some pointers to help you get the best start and make
a good impression.
Do
1. Be on time - The last thing you want to do
is make a bad impression on your date. If you are late
they will think that you don't care and worse still
might not hang around for you to turn up.
2. Make your partner feel comfortable - We all
feel like a bag of nerves on our first date with someone;
so by making them feel comfortable you will also be
able to relax and enjoy yourself.
3. Be an interesting date - The worse thing
you can do is turn up for a date with someone then sit
there all night and talk. Worse still talking and not
making sense or having nothing good to talk about.
4. Laugh at their jokes - Even if you have heard
the joke 100 times or more (or it just isn't funny at
all) laughing along with them will make them feel you
are interested in them.
5. Keep the conversation alive - That dreaded
silence when no one knows what to say can seem to last
for a life time and will make both of you think the
other is boring. Jot down a few questions you would
like to ask. Practicing for the date can make all the
difference and once you have started the rest will just
follow. Here are a few conversation
starters you could use.
6. Take an interest in them - Listen to them
when they are talking. Be interested in what they have
to say and show how interested you are by asking them
questions about what they like to do etc..
7. Take them somewhere unique - First dates
don't just have to be about going to the cinema or to
a restaurant for a nice meal. You will make a longer,
lasting impression if you are imaginative with your
date.
8. Be confident - Confidence says a lot about
a person. Being more confident will help you get through
that first date with ease.
9. Be yourself - You won't fool anyone by pretending
to be someone you are not. If you want to continue seeing
them, the real you will come out eventually and they
may no longer be interested.
10. Most importantly - STAY SAFE. Check
out our guide to dating
safely
Don't
1. Be late - First impressions count and if
you are late this will make them think of you are lazy,
or lack of responsibility, etc..
2. Talk about yourself all night - There is
nothing worse then a person that loves to talk about
themselves all the time. How vain can you get?
3. Talk about past relationships all night -
May be that's how you lost the last one. Nobody wants
to hear you drone on about your ex and what they did
or didn't do. Concentrate on this one and see if you
can get to the second date.
4. Eat with your mouth open - Just the thought
of it makes my stomach turn so save your date the horrible
experience.
5. Ask too many personal questions - This is
your first date and they won't want to reveal to much
about themselves just yet. If you like each other and
want to continue with the relationship then there will
be plenty of time to ask questions.
6. Try to be something you are not - You will
only attract the way that you act and if that is not
the real you, when the real you does come out the other
person may not be interested. Find someone that will
want you for you not for what you are pretending to
be.
7. Forget to thank them for the date - Not only
is this good manners but this is where you will get
your chance to end it if you are not interested or for
you to ask them out on another date if you would like
to see them again.
8. Propose marriage or kids - Unless you don't
want to see them again.
9. Pursue sex - after your partner has said
no.
10. Don't get drunk - You don't want to spend
half the night in the toilet vomiting and your date
won't think much of you. You can also put yourself at
risk of unwanted advances and will not be in the right
frame of mind or body to do anything about it.
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