| This is the language where
you don't need any words. Women have been doing it for
hundreds of years to attract the man they want. Becoming
fluent in body language will ensure that you will be skilled
in attracting the right man and sending the get-lost signal
to the wrong man.
Eyeing up the prize
The more eye contact you establish with the target,
the better. Start with some sidelong glances. Then,
begin with direct eye contact. Once he turns to meet
your gaze, immediately lower your eyes and smile to
yourself, this will tell him that you were watching
him and are embarrassed that he caught you - a sure
sign of interest. Next, be bold and try holding his
stare, flashing a small, open-lipped smile.
If there is a man that is giving you the eyes and you
are not interested look away from him and don't look
back at him again. When in conversation, looking at
the ceiling and all around the room also shows a definite
lack of interest.
First impressions count
You leave your home ready to go to a party when you
spot your gorgeous neighbour and he doesn't give you
a second glance. Why? Because you aren't dressed your
best.
When you enter a room most people look to see who has
come in, this is when you have to make an impression
and looking your best will make you feel at your best.
So make sure that before you leave your front door look
your best, and you never know you might just attract
the attention of that gorgeous neighbour.
The hand job (no not what you are thinking)
Even without direct contact, your hands can send very
powerful messages. There are a number of ways to convey
that you want to get to know someone. Keeping your hands
unclenched shows you're open to him. Using your hands
to caress objects, such as the rim of your glass, locks
of your hair, or the sleeve of your blouse, in a rhythmic
(as opposed to fidgety) manner, can be a sensual act.
And for the braver hands, try picking fluff off his
jacket, touching him to punctuate a point, or using
the "accidental touch" when reaching for the
salt.
Hands that are jammed in pockets, busy cleaning glasses,
or balled in tight fists are all bad signs. Fingers
tapping, drumming, pointing, or wagging are also signals
to move on.
Stand out
Your posture is one of the most telling signals you
transmit. An open posture is evidence of an open person.
Turning your body toward the man you're conversing with,
keeping your feet flat on the floor and leaning forward
are actions that show interest. As well as, slightly
tilting your head, crossing and uncrossing your legs,
and thrusting your chest forward give the message that
you are interested.
As for ways to send a man packing, crossing your arms,
holding a drink high in front of you, turning your body
away or resting your feet on their toes will tell a
person you are not interested.
A few extra tips
Hopefully by now, you have an attack plan and a clear
idea of when it's time to get down and dirty or when
you're best just to wave the white flag. Here are just
a few more tips when trying to perfect your body language
skills:
You'll know things are going really well when you begin
"mirroring" one another's body language and
gestures.
Don't tease him by offering more than you plan to follow
through. This can lead to very ugly circumstances
Chain smoking, being extremely intoxicated, or having
eyes only for your plate of food will not put you in
the best standing for the body language game.
If you try your hand at it, and he's not responding,
abort the mission immediately.…
Following him around all night will only serve in making
you look needy and desperate.
And finally, if all else fails, buy yourself a T-shirt
that reads, "Looking for Love."
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