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Although Swinging is not for everyone, all kinds of
people from all walks of life enjoy the Swingers
Scene.
One of the main reasons that people become Swingers,
is to explore and share sexual fantasies with other
people, and of course make new friends in the process.
If you're considering joining the Swingers
Scene, one of the biggest hurdles you will have to cross,
is jealousy! Because jealousy is such a distructive
emotion, this can cause great problems between couples
further down the line. The most important thing to consider
before getting involved with other Swingers,
is each other. Make sure that you discuss things clearly
with your partner about what you want out of swinging,
and why you want to be a swinger, and set out some guidelines
& stick to them.
If there is something that you are not happy with or
feel uneasy about, speak up, don't put up!.
You should never force or push your partner into Swinging.
If one of you is keener than the other then you
obviously need to discuss things further, until you
are both 100% happy that leading a Swingers
Lifestyle is right for you.
Lots of couples have some inhibitions, especially if
they are new to the Swingers Scene, but you can overcome
this by keeping the lines of communication open and
by being honest with your partner, and with other potential
swinging couples.
Most couples start their swingers life off by trying
the "Soft Swingers
Approach" where each couple have sex with their
own partner, although both couples are in the same room
- they can watch each other.
Once you've had experience as "Soft Swingers",
and provided both partners found it enjoyable, then
they commonly move on to a full swap either as "Closed
Door Swingers" - where swinging takes place in
separate rooms or "Open Door Swingers"
- where a full swap may take place with everyone in
the same room.
Swinging is not just exclusive to couples, there are
many single men who wish to join the Swingers Scene
and participate with other couples to act out their
fantasies. There does, however, seem to be a shortfall
of women, particularly Bi Women. This generally means
that couples looking for Single Female Swingers
need to be persistent in their search.
Because the internet is a fabulous place to find other
people who have the same interests/lifestyle as you,
consider placing a few ads on Swingers Communitiy Boards,
or Swingers related sites - Adult
Personals & Adultfriendfinder.com
Single Male Swingers
need to be extra considerate when approaching couples,
in order to convince them that they should be allowed
the privilege of joining in.
By being persistent, you will get there in the end.
Couples that accept Single Men to join them, may do
so for the following reasons:-
The first one is because they are looking for a single
man in particular.
Secondly, couples seeking single men prefer absolute
discretion, require that they are clean (disease free)
and have the right attitude. ie:- they are not just
after some fast action.
Thirdly - honesty.
Another important factor to consider are STD's. (Sexually
Transmitted Diseases)
STD's should be a concern to all of us, particularly
to those who are involved in the Swingers Scene. It
is vitally important that you protect yourself, and
others. If you have been exposed to any diseases in
the past, then it is important that you reveal it to
any other potential Swingers/Partners, even though you
may be disease free now. Remember that some diseases
don't show any symptoms, so its important to protect
yourself and others at all times! Also getting yourself
tested on a regular basis is a definate step in the
right direction.
Most Swingers
have their limits of what they will and won't do. It
is vitally important that all Swingers are truly honest
about what they like and dislike, as this tends to make
the best swinging experience all round.
If you are curious about joining the Swingers Scene,
then browse the swingers
sites listed.
You will generally find that in order to browse profiles
of Swingers and see full pictures, you need to join
a few sites using their free membership option. Some
of the sign-ups can be quite long, but worth it. That
way you can be specific about what you are searching
for and it will give you a much better idea of what
is available, and whether a Swingers
Lifestyle is for you.
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